FEELING MISUNDERSTOOD
The feeling of being misunderstood is very common and can easily create conflicts. When you or someone else is intentionally twisting your words then ask if you are being misunderstood and if yes then immediately stand corrected or bring in clarity. This act will immediately cut your loss and show you in good light.
But remember it may not always be a good idea to ask immediately so asses the situation and then do it.
FEELING JEALOUS
Another human emotion which can hurt us deeply is the feeling of jealousy. Jealousy happens when we are either insecure or we feel not good enough. Dealing with this emotion can be a little difficult because of our own inability to accept it. So put a different spin to it and look at it as an important information that our mind is giving us. It is telling us to reassess our needs in terms of what we have and and what we want. That way jealousy can reduced and eventually get rid of forever.
FEELING IGNORED
One can feel ignored and unwanted by friends, colleagues or partners. This behavior can be considered as rude and uncompassionate and it can drain our spirits and leave us irritable and cranky. Depending on the relationship you can simply put firm boundaries and give clear instructions . But if you feel that the relationship is not important then preserve your energy for something else and let this situation just slide. On the other hand the hard truth is that you cannot make anyone listen to you so show maturity in such situations and always be that better person.
FEELING GUILTY
We usually feel guilty when we break the rules of the society or our own personal code of ethics. We humans are far from being perfect and we tend to make mistakes. The best idea is to forgive yourself and stop criticizing yourself for the rest of your life. Believe me Forgiveness is very powerful. If that’s difficult then work with a coach to get love, support and direction. But if you have truly wronged someone the ask for an apology and make a commitment to keep up to the promise. Learn from your mistakes and failures. I believe that a little bit of guilt is always good because it keeps our behavior in check.
FEELING VICTIMISED
Victim mentality means always blaming others or outside situation for your problem. If you are trapped in this trigger then you will always talk and express a lot of negative. I agree that bad things do happen which is beyond our control but many situations still needs some levels of personal responsibility. Victim mind will stop you to make any or big changes and make you feel powerless. To deal with this trigger identify and make goals and then create plans to achieve those goals. Work on self compassion and self kindness.
FEELING SMOTHERED
Not having enough space in any relationship can be very frustrating. Its important o know when caring becomes emotionally suffocating. To deal with it make clear boundaries and express very clearly about your needs. Make small decisions on your own and allow your partner to do their own thing without asking any questions. Allocate some time to yourself everyday for self care. It’s important to have faith and trust in your family, children and partner. Remember that over loving and caring for someone can become a reason for disconnection and uncoupling.